Focusing on Who is With you and not Who is not!

The trip of a lifetime to Bethlehem their homeland, where they were secure

While Mary and Joseph were on their way to Bethlehem they clearly focused not on who was not with them but on who was with them.  Specifically they knew God was with them and all the judgment, prejudice and bias that surrounded their lives, isolated them and abandoned them did not become their focus.

How important this is makes me wonder why no one has even thought about this part of the Christmas Story.

Whenever you feel all alone, deserted by friends and family, isolated, the focus you need is to be on the God who is always present even when he/they seem absent.

Some suggest this is the difference between seeing the glass half full or half empty but it is truly on who is holding the glass.

Mary and Joseph felt God holding them with every step toward their destination and when they heard the inn keeper say their is no room in the Inn.

There was no room in the inn but God ws in the stable.

Heaven and Nature Sing

It is true

As all the animals went into the ark, two by two because they knew


So at the birth of Jesus, all the animals joined in the celebration and anticipation of renewal, redemption, and reformation.

All nature sings with the choirs of angels, the song to the maker of Heaven and Earth and the Highest and Wisest of all.

The wise men, Make it So

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The wise men were sent on a mission to report back to King Herod.  They received a different commission from the angels.  After bring three gifts, they left and took a different route home than what they had planned.


When God shifts your heart, mind to take a different route even if you do not understand it and even if others are uncomfortable with it, a”Make it So” and God will bless you so!


The three gifts of Christmas are Faith to see beyond your own thinking, to Hope beyond your limitations, and Love beyond your borders.

See the wisdom of James in 2:8-12



The Shepherd’s another quarter heard from

Make it So

What we know is that thew shepherd’s when they caught this great light in the sky were to put it mildly, “Sacred to Death”!

Sacred encounters are anything but comfortable.  But once understood they become more than comfortable, “down right upright”.  The angels at Jesus’ birth, baptism and, tomb all had the same message, “No fears, no worries, no problems”, “Make it so”.  In short to all of us at Christmas and always:


Don’t be scared, “the sacred” always is unpredictable, scary, and fear embedded at first.  Only when the comfort of God’s presence over shadows the normal human reactions of judgment, bias and prejudice can we take to heart the Sacred!

God does not work within the context and confinements of our understanding but beyond them.

The conclusion:

“It was Good, God means everything for God no matter how stretched our comfort zone it is always for our growth and goodness.

Let go of fear and judgment and make room for the Sacred Goodness of God.


Make it so

The Highest and Wisest Self is in the Highest Heavens and in the Deepest Inner World

Make It So

Some theologians I have met over the years are absolutely positively sure that they are right that “there is no good thing in humanity”.  At the core of humanity there is only a Sinful Nature.  To believe this you have to believe that the Highest God who holds out for the highest Good in and for all his creation (which reflects divinity and in whom divinity is not lost because it is greater than humanity) could and would allow humanity to overwhelm and overrule divinity.  This makes no sense.

The idea that humanity once reconnected to its roots of divinity, would flourish and flooded by divinity makes more sense.  Perhaps this is why in the earliest days of Christianity, before systematic theology or Biblical theology were formulated, Iraneaus spoke in a compelling way the following: “Oh to be fully human, such is the Glory of God!”.

What id when the Angels sang in the presence of night darkness and the light of all heavenly angels “Glory to God in the Highest” they were really sending a clear irrefutable and immutable message: that in humanity is now the connecting link to its birth right the divinity of God!  The second Adam to comment on Paul’s theology) was undoing what the first Adam did (death to all) and gifting what only God can give (life to all) – (I Corinthians 15:21-22).

The Wise Man’s Gifts and The Gift of Wisdom

God Made IT so!

The Wise Men whenever they came brought lavish gifts: Gold, Frankscence and Myrrh.

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Myrrh being commonly used as an anointing oil, frankincense as a perfume, and gold as a valuable. The three gifts had a spiritual meaning: gold as a symbol of kingship on earth, frankincense (an incense) as a symbol of deity, and myrrh (an embalming oil) as a symbol of death.
At the same time “The Maker of Heaven and Earth”, the Most High God (Genesis 14) is offering in this baby to the world the three most precious and Eternal gifts of “Faith Hope and Love
God was “Making it So” that anyone and everyone would have access to the gifts of Love (the courage to make anything and everything GOOD), hope (The creative energy to see the worst of moments as the opportunity to live as if it was good even though it is not), and Faith (the calm resolve to see everything and anything as gift of goodness if we can see it so for faith is the evidence of things not seen by the natural eye but by the eye of faith).
“Make It So” is the underlying them of Christmas then and now!   Make it so!

Mary and Jospeh: Abandoned by Family and Friends, Adorned by angels, wisemen, shepherds

"Make It SO"

We know pressure little factual data about those days, the days surrounding Jesus’ birth.  Some even believe it to be a “made up story”.

What we do know is all those of the family, lineage of David had to go to Bethlehem to register for taxes (that would be all May and Joseph’s cousins, aunts and uncles etc. So where were they.  Were they in the comfort inn, while Mary and Jospeh were out in the wind.  Why didn’t someone in the family offer to share there room, their suite, their lodge.  It is an assumption but a good one that judgment, bias, and prejudice towards them by their family and others directed the “close doors”.   What is really amazing is that Mary and Joseph did not (in all of their discomfort of pregnancy, abandonment, judgment, bias and prejudice have hostility or anger in them toward anyone.  The Love of God had so flooded their souls that they knew regardless of what people thought they were in the right place, doing the right thing, and everything would be all right and alright!

And it was.

They Made it So!

A quip is a “Way of Living”

Make It so

It has been a long time since I wrote on my blog……so much of life lessons learned and learning so feel more ready to write:


Last night after listening to concert my granddaughter was in, I stopped at a convenience store for a cup of Java!  One clerk was in the store no one else.  I wished him a Merry Christmas.  He said, “I hope so”.  I quipped, “Make it so”!

As I stepped into my car slowly and drove off, I realized I had been living what I said to him.  Since my nearly fatal accident 16 months earlier, each day I have poured into that day a “merry heart does good like medicine” (Proverb).  Indeed it has and does.


This Christmas whatever your circumstances or situation, whatever your comfort or discomfort, “Make it a Merry” time. Imagine how Mary and Joseph lived that and check in tomorrow for the story?

Just because it works does NOT make it good

Goodness is in the experience not expression

Why do you call me “good”? Good question.  We even have a Christmas stocking for our dog that asks, “Please Santa, define good?” Goodness in my experience of God is that God always shows up whether something that happens is good or bad in my perception.  God’s presence is always good.  In Adam and Eve’s experience that was always true yet they feared judgment, criticism.  All they got was: calm, compassionate, cooperative, creative, caring, etc.  How refreshing. So why did I grow up experiencing guilt, shame, blame more than “goodness” yet I was asked to be good?   Is society, religion, culture or some internal biological neuro-pathway to negativity to blame?  Did you catch that?  How intrinsic is it to want to blame someone or something for a situation or problem.  Here is the problem as I see it.  Certainly just my perspective.  Blaming, shaming and guilt tripping work to creative “prescribed behavior modification”.  Just because it works doe snot make it good or right.  The price is too high.  The cost of blaming shaming and guilt tripping is the internal injury of the soft tissue of our hearts. Secondly, without any sense of shame of blame people would blamelessly do even worse atrocities even in the name of goodness.  No wonder there is so much chaos and confusion in our world.  There is chaos and confusion in our internal system.  That interprets a parental correction of an in appropriate statement or action as “I am bad” or “there is something wrong with me”.  We become fixated on fixing something in us that does not need fixing which results in a cosmic “fix it fixation”. God did not try to fix Adam and Eve.  They experienced the “inner voice of shame”.  God released them from that inner voice not by negating it but by sending them a message of goodness and compassion and offering to them a resolution that they could live with as heathy humanity.  By healthy humanity, I mean that the inner message of shame and blame was balanced out by another message, “It is not you that is bad (you are just human) it is your choice to inflict a negative message or action to your inner self or neighbor.  Loving your self and your neighbor is how to get our of the chaos, conflict, and confusion that injury invites you into. Goodness does not just hope that I am okay.  Goodness makes me okay while it also invites me to change my behavior when it inflicts anything but goodness on my inner world or neighbor.  Maybe this is why, we here in many ways the message: “Love your inner self, and your neighbor as yourself”.   Now that is GOOD!

So What is Inside that Promotes Shame

Healthy Shame vs Autonomy or Shameless-ness

While it is clear to me (perhaps not others) that god did not introduce shame, blame or Guilt, where do they come from.

Inside of humanity is the natural polarity that is in all systems.  Polarities open the door to shame and blame but the negative aspect of shame and blame is inherent but not inherited.  What is inherited is the capacity to invite balance and harmony, to embrace polarities without inviting polarization.   Polarization occurs when a person has no sense or losses their sense of balance and harmony rather than constrain and restraint.

What if not directed by their “fear of external judgment” or internally and integrally prompted shame, “I did something wrong” creating the need to “hide” because it is all they could think of.

What if another part of them emerged and said, “we know God is full of compassionate care and that God will not let anything we do or do not do effect who they are or how they respond.  God is above all of that. God’s ways are not our ways.  god does no hide form chaos prompting confusion.  God in the presence of chaos sees a way to respond with calmness and creativity.  So what if Adam and Eve were able to access that calm and creative resource within them rather than being polarized by a part that can only “run and hide” or “stay and contend”.  Wha tif they decided to stay in the garden of grace that they ha basque in even before they knew their need to experience and express grace to and from each other.  What if when God cam into the garden they said,” Boy ar ewe glad to see you, we think we really blew it yesterday as we ate of the tree you put in the garden but told us clearly not to eat of it.  We ate and something changed inside, our eyes looked at each other, ourselves and even you differently.  We even were tempted by a part that said, “run and hide” because we felt naked where we had never felt the feeling of “nakedness” or “shame” or “blame”.  We know you would come to offer to us understanding and your love and compassion.  We trust that more than we fear our own inner voices of shame present asa our inner voice of shame which we now are starting to see are of set by your “impending and restoring grace.  We are so glad to see you because we know you and who you are.


That shift would have shifted blaming and shaming to gracing. which was in us as well.

So Genesis was not a “fall from Grace” as much as it was and is an invitation to fall into grace or be entrapped by inner shame and blame.


Today the choice is always the same.  Le the polarity polarize or let the polarities prompt us to see also the grace and healing rather than the shame that drives us into darkness and despair, “to the cave of shame” verses the “the garden of grace”.   So the choice of humanity is always to slide into the human tendency to “isolate and internalize shame” or invite grace, “solo gratia” to quote Martin Luther.

So inside all of us is a “critical and condemning” part that thinks we need to be punished to be set free from our wrong.  The problem is that while the intention of the part is to set us free, “hiding and isolating” never leads us out of shame and blame, but into the “cave of hopelessness”.  Inside us is another part or perhaps the re-organizing, re-storing, retrofitting “Self energy” that always sees hope, remains calm and compassionate regardless of anything.


That Self is “the garden of grace” and inviting the light of restorative justice rather that wandering into the “cave of darkness and despair”.