Recently someones said to me, “I cannot believe you are recovering so quickly”, referring to the accident and the healing of my body, the attitude of my mind and the acuity of my spirit.
I think there are multiple reasons why 8 week as after the accident I am doing so well: going to ballgames at Fenway Park on my own, having counseling sessions for clients in handicapped office space provided for me and my clients by a friend, attending my 1 year old grandsons birthday party in NYC driven by a friend, meeting my 11 year old grand daughter for her birthday event: The Little Mermaid at Albany Park Playhouse ( I drove myself she was driven by her mother and we all enjoyed the show, I preached for the first time since the last accident this past Sunday (8/21/16), went to Greenwich beach last Monday for the day. Today, later this afternoon I will throw the wheelchair in the back of my wife’s car, hop with walker out of the house and into the car. Then drive to pick up my 18 year old grandson then take him out to dinner as he prepares to return to Blair Academy for his senior year.
So how am I able to do all this? Strength of my will and desire? Partly but the main catalyst for this will and desire comes from God and people whom I love and who love me. The truth is with the help and prayers of many family and friends who regardless of emotional tensions, or perhaps rising above them, are “making the best of the worst of times”. That phrase was written in our wedding vows nearly 12 years ago now. We are living those vows out. Maybe that is what makes a family a family and good friends good friends, a good marriage: “Making the best of the worst of times”.
It is not what we do and say during the best of times. That is just plain what we call “fun”. In good times we tend not to get angry or upset with others. Our focus is the good times.
Something very human happens in the worst of times: hurt feelings, unkind or nasty words all fueled by anger and fear.
Something very Godly (even if you do not believe in God) happens in the worst of times. It is what I believe is the very nature of God visible in many scriptures and perhaps outlined in Romans 8:28 which paraphrased might read “In the worst of times God takes those worst times and works them together for good for those who stay focused on Love as God does and who according to God’s purposes love regardless of anything”.
So there are multiple reasons for my speedy recovery. One is hard work. Another is allowing for slow progress. The best is always focusing on the best, the positive, the optimistic, on faith hope and love. In this worst of times seeing and receiving the best: family and friends have prayed for me, friends have driven me and provided meals for me, a friend has provided office space for me, a friend is understanding as I no longer use space in his office building, friends and family have sent encouraging notes even traveled to visit to Debbie and me (some actually changing their planned vacation (we obviously have had ours changed)etc. We have kept our focus not on the accident but on the healing energies of prayer, hard work, and faith to be well.
Thank you one and all for making the worst of times the best of times as the best of people come out!
45 years ago when I was playing basketball in college one of my coaches said: “sports brings our the best and the worst in people”. I vote for the best to come out of the worst of times.