Grateful Memorial Day

Celebrating Sacrificing Attitudes


“The Willingness to Sacrifice is the prelude to Freedom”

I found this cute outside a military base years ago and have logged into my mind.  On this Memorial Day as we celebrate in parades all across this great land those who gave their lives or portions of their lives as a heroic hope for the liberties and freedom we today share, I give thanks.  In our family they are many in the nearly all passed generation that have done so.   There are people today who do so.   Not just in the military though that may be our focus today.  I would extend that to all civil servants like EMT’s, Police, and Fireman to name a few groups who every day in a similar way are “willing to sacrifice (as a part of their very job and oath) so that we the citizens of this great land can live in and enjoy peace and freedom.”  Without this prelude to the same who knows where our nation would be,
Thank you all.
As we remember so we will not forget the heroism of the past and the heroism (not just celebrating all ho died or sacrificed limbs but all who were “willing” to pay the price) of the present which give us the gift of hope, faith, and love in this great land.
Bless you every one


On the Wind of Spirit, with wings of Hope

With wings spread wide, the seagull flew high.

As I walked the beach, I noticed the ease of his flight as he spread forth his wings. I thanked God for all of you who have prayed and for the strength and healing that is returning to my body, and the wind under my wings.

Today is 11 months since my accident and surgery. I swam 54 laps in a pool (3/4 mile)and walked 4 miles. My goal is to by 12 months be swimming a mile, walking six and to feel ready to start jogging. I still have pain and am still a bit wobbly yet praising God all the wy.

Thank you God.
Thank you family and friends who have been supportive and prayed. God is good.

“Those who hope in the Lord
Will renew their strength!!
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint!
-Isaiah 40:31


A Mother’s Day Tribute

The Earth Mother, the Mother of All Living Things

Eve The Mother of All Living: Her The Role and Rule of Love

Love Does not Compete, Conflict, Condemn,

Love is Contrite, Calm, Compassionate, non-competitive, non-condemning and conflict free………Adam and Eve had learned this. They were not made or angry that God had kicked them out of the garden. They understood it was for their own good. To protect themselves form themselves. The single best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. They had eaten of a tree that they were not to eat of. The second tree they were told to not eat of was the Tree of Eternal Life. Imagine had they eaten of the Eternal Life they would have lived forever in an eternal state of sin

Even the creator, God would be unable to change the reality of that state.

So the kindness and goodness of God is again visible in the act that at first sight seems to be God’s anger or judgment or punishment and upon a second look is clearly an act of God’s love, grace and mercy.

Did God have a right to be angry? Yes. Was God angry? Yes. Did God act with anger against the sin of Adam and Eve, or the sin of Abel. No exactly the opposite.

Note to self:

#1 You can be angry you can even hate but you cannot turn that anger and hate into acts of violence, vengeance, for that would be to violate the very role and rule of God in the World. God’s rule and role in the world is to rule with love and grace not anger and violence.

Adam and Eve had learned this. Abel got this and so his offering was one of sacrificial love and abundant grace. His name is among the Hebrews 11 People of Faith: “a righteous man by faith he still speaks, even though dead” (He did what was right in the site of God.) He was a shepherd in the fields of Iran?Iraq and gave his very best. Cain’s offering was disappointing to God, as he gave but not the best or first.

Note to Self:

#2 The emotions of anger is not a Management problem but a Heart problem. When we are threatened by someone else’s success the problem is in us not in them. Upset even anger is okay, violence and hostility is not. Cain could have chosen to look within and see his completive side and transformed it to cooperative via self-compassion. Karen Kneff, Self

Compassion is what can change the world.

Some literature tells that it was “anger” that was Cain’s problem. I disagree anger itself is not sin….the anger was a part of him that existed to cover his own shortcoming, and a cover for the sin of competition and hostility toward his brother rather than dealing with the reality of deception in his own heart. Years later the same problem would be present in Esau and Jacob.

Note to Self

#3 The role and Rule of every mother that produces life is to shepherd that life with the rule of truth and grace, and the Role of Modeling the same with humility and honor.

Eve was called by Adam to infer that she is “Life” and his role and rule was to with truth and grace honor and cherish her life as she would honor and cherish his. As the first couple of earth the secret of reclaiming the lost union that had no place for guilt or shame and restore the state of innocence and grace is a statement to all mother’s: “You are the source of Life, for all Living things, when you honor all life and when you are honestly cherishing and nurturing all life.

The very Nature of Mother hood is to Nurture all living things.

Servants Among Us

Do you have a neighbor or friend maybe even a relative who serves society as a fireman, policeman, military personnel, secret service, etc?

While all of us know that death is no respecter of age, sex, race, or religion and can come anytime in any way, most of us live every day as if it will not happen to me.

The above noted group is more aware of that than most as their very job requires them to daily be ready to give their life a sacrifice for anyone and every one.  Jesus said, “Greater Love has no one than this, that he will lay down is life for another”.  Fireman et al go to work, and their family sends them to work with the awareness in the back of their minds, that this could be the day.  They don’t talk about it every day but it is the reality of their every day service to society.

His name is not important and the exact details are not important because he represents so many who have given their lives in service.  But on a Thursday the last eek of April, a fireman in the line of duty fell to his death in Queens, NY.  The solidarity of the collective consciousness of the “reality of we all face death every day” summoned literally thousands from near and far to gather to pay tribute not to this man alone but to the group of “heroes willing to sacrifice their lives as part of  the job”.  It reminded me of a quote at a military base, “The willingness to Sacrifice is the Prelude to Freedom”.

In the quiet small town of Cheshire/Pittsfield, Rt 8, MA far away form the densely populated city of New York the following exhibition of this “collective consciousness of the communities loss of one of their own stood tall!”:FullSizeRender

A top the extended ladder of a firetruck in for repairs was a bucket with a flag honoring his passing.  No fan fare no signs, no reporters just a quiet symbol of a class of heroes we all sometimes just take for granted.  So here is a quiet Thank You to all those who have served and their families, whether they lived or died, and to all those who now serve and their families:  “You rock!” and your legacy is the gift of “Life Giving Life”!  Thank You

And thank you to whoever was inspired to place this tribute in a humble heroic fashion as a tribute to those who serve with “humility and heroism.”

Happy Easter

A Wonder filled Message of Hope and Healing for today and forever

10 months ago I found myself laying on a road flat on my back which meant all I could do was look up!

I was at a Sunrise Service this Easter morning and everything seemed different.  I do not know how many Easter Sunrise Services I have attended over the years……I remember one when I was 15 when we had a foot of snow.  I went to sunrise Service then came home shoveled my basketball court that I had built in our yard, then had a pick up game before church.   I have attended, led, participated in probably 40 or so bu today was huge;y different.

I became very emotional and could not even sing except in the Spirit and in my heart.  Thy all  bellowed while outwardly I wept.  Tears of rejoicing seeds of growth.  I was overwhelmed.  I felt like I had been to the gates of death, witnessed their power, then felt the raw roar of a lion in me.  I recall at a spirit liberating group session getting on a table and roaring like a lion, as I grieved my father’s death.


Death has no sting and the grave no victory as we know the power of the Lion of Judah.

Nothing, no event,no abundance, no adversity has any power over the part in us that is the imago deo. The Lion’s courage is in all of us and is the most present in death and in the face of that which will or will try to destroy.

Greater is the Lion in You than the trouble around you..


Happy Easter morning.  More later!

The First Seven Words of God

For however long it was that Adam and Eve lives in total openness, shameless and free they experienced perennial happiness, balance and the bliss of oneness.  The enemy of that bliss and the one who sowed the idea that God was threatened and insecure and did not want humanity to know all that he knows and so had forbidden eating of the tree of knowledge of good and evil led to an overreach of freedom and the experience of fragmentation, fracture, and friction in relationships.

The next day God came into the garden in the same way he had on every previous day.  He cam in love and with love.  They had changed but God’s changeless love remained the same.  So God’s first word was “Love”.  Regardless of any choice you make nothing will change the Love of God for you.  This is the Gospel, the goodness and the first word of God to the estranged couple.  The estrangement was inside of them not in the heart of God.

As God looked around for them He was the “Seeker“, “I want a relationship with your no matter what so “seeker” is the second word of God. I will seek you until I find you and you find me the changeless expression of love and grace.

Adam and Eve had felt shame, were soon to engage in blame, and so hid from God.  God sought them out.   God had a heart of forgiveness toward them regardless of anything.  I forgive you is the third word!

God’s fourth word is about “Faithfulness”.  Nothing will cause God to be rattled by anything that people do or anything that happens in the world.  He will be there always even to the end.

God then speaks a word of accountability and about responsibility and respect.  Your choices are your responsibilities. To booth of the mGod gave a different accountability rubric to assist them in their future and their learning about what builds responsibility and appreciation.  Adam will have to work the garden to have him appreciate more the supply of food.  Eve would endure pain in child birth.  Suffering, Work, pain all help us to appreciate and not take things for granted.  God was not engaging in punishment or judgment but rather in building character through work, pain and suffering.  When we work for things, suffer loss, and endure pain as good soldiers we grow into more appreciative and accepting human beings.

Next God “provides” for his creation.  God loved them in their shame and out of their shame. God chose to slay his very creation to provide covering for the shame, guilt, and hiding they had engaged in.

Finally as a crowning statement of God’s eternal Love and eternal protection of humanity from themselves, “God casts them out of the garden and creates an impermeable barrier or wall to keep them from compounding their state of affairs.  The greatest predictor of future behavior is past behavior.  They had eaten of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and hd become as God knowing both good and evil.  It is one thing to know good and evil and have the moral fiber to always choose good, and to act with goodness and kindness as God does.  It is another to know good and evil without the moral fiber to choose well. If they had defied one limitation it was likely they would defy the second and eat of the tree of eternal life and be forever in their site of sinfulness.  So full of grace and truth God banished them not in punishment but in redemptive grace and with radiant truth.  God is the “Protector and Preserver” of his creation.

The first Seven Words of God then are: Love, Seeker, Forgiveness, Faithful, Accountable and Responsible, Provider, Protector.  They represent the heart and mind of God, the character of God, and the Covenant of Love by the creator for all creation.  This is the Gospel.  Glory be to God!

What is so Good about Good Friday

Goodness abounds in the heart of God

On Good Friday God who so loved the world that he gifted that world his son.  He did not flinch in the presence of the egocentricities of humanity or the excessive cruelty and hostility.  He suffered for our sins not because it was right but because it was good for him to do.  This act of divine surrender and humility in the presence of human power and hostility modeled the way of Christ and the way of love and peace.

So in memorial today I want to challenge myself and all humanity to do something good and kind, setting aside might and right and taking up sacrifice and humility.  Make every day a “good Friday” not by beign good we all fall short of that, but by doing something good that someone never expected and pass goodness forward.

I am curious if that was not what Jesus did that day.  Passed God’s goodness forward to all from a heart of forgiveness to a transformed heart and mind.

The Old Time Gospel predates Judaism and Christianity and is reflected in the same

We are more one than we know

I sat in a workshop listening to a person talking about post modern Christianity and Post Modern Psychotherapy. In both cases I had a reactive part that wanted to say: We might discover that the old is the new and the new is the old. It was not my workshop so I kept it to myself. Here’s my question:


Are we searching for the new modern smooth finished cross/gospel or a new discovery of the genius and genesis of the old rugged cross/gospel (finished perpetuating story)? Is it the old gospel renewed, a new modern time religion, or the “really old” time religion reframed. By “really old” I do not mean the age of enlightenment or Reformation but the Biblical Record of Genesis 3 or 1


Years ago I was a passionate evangelical pastor wanting to tell the whole world how to believe how to know God in a personal way through his son Jesus Christ. I really cared about people, their present situations and their eternal destiny. I had a part that had all the best intention and yet true awareness was limited by my biases.


Today 45 years later I’m an equally passionate person wanting everyone to know that there’s not one right way to believe in God or follow The “Most High God’s” eternal Principles (Genesis 14: where 4 kings came against 5 v 9b, they took Lot away captive and when Abram –the Hebrew-heard it he gathered 318 Green Berras/Navy Seal types/etc. He freed Lot and retook goods and property – So four kings allied together won then another player emerged namely Abram who defeated King Kedorlaomer and the other 4. Then Melchisdek one of the Kings of Salem brought out Bread and Wine. He was a High Priest of the Most High God-v17, v19-20 “Blessed be Abram by the Most High God, creator of Heaven and Earth- and Abram paid 1/10th to Melchisdek as a thank offering for justice and strength belong to our God)). This was a World War settled by a just intervention.


Jesus said if they are not against me then consider them for me the same Jesus said I am the way the truth and the life no one comes to the father. The way of Jesus is the way of being in peace and living in peace and love with God and yourself and your neighbor. This is the heart of all religion so Jesus. It is the essence of spiritual quests in all faiths.


John 1:21 “everyone who lives by the truth comes into the light”, John 5:42 “I know you do not have the Love of God in your hearts”,


The multiplicity of parts desiring balance and harmony is assisted to that end through the core Gospel or Good News of compassion and calmness, love and peace, and of grace and truth the gospel thanks be to God!


Peace inside and peace towards all outside and love of yourself and God and your neighbor as yourself these are the core and fundamental truths of spirituality and the impetus and drive of all religions and true spirituality.

In the beginning all there was, was the creator God. In the creation all the heavens and the earth, all living things in the earth and humanity on earth worshiped the God who walked in the cool of the garden and communed with them as friend with friend. Spiritual integrity is found in the nakedness and honesty that somehow died when hiding and blaming and feeling shame over took the inner peace and outer love.

Expanding community extending diversity


Togetherness in Multiplicity


There are many ways in which over the history of civilization, towns and communities have evolved and developed. Those groups though called a community are actually more like “Affinity groups”. The primary difference is that natural affinity groups form in all communities but for a community to develop it takes an attitude shift and a attribution shift. The attitude is toward not tolerance but embracing of multiplicity. The attribution is to not attribute good or bad, right or wrong to anything but to attribute the “same only different” orientation toward embracing rather than just tolerating differences.


Internal family systems is not just a model for psychotherapy but it’s a model for building community. Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy is now posted on NREPP as an evidence-based practice. For interventions with depression and assorted mental health issues but it is also a widely used system of building community.


The two major tenets are the multiplicity of the mind and the existence of the multiplicity of parts within the system of humanity and individual people coupled with the presence of goodness and kindness or self energy at the core of that system. Dr. Donald Paine who has trained in internal systems theory teaches it and practices it in his own life witness sand professional work will present a series of four training modules that will equip to use this in your personal life in your relationship with others in your family in the new community


The multiplicity of parts in the universe promotes a good and kind self energy within the system makes this system and approach effective and efficient when applied with integrity The design is for the intimacy of diversity and the identity of individuality.